Facades

April 10, 2014 3 comments

You know those things you see people post on Facebook, or their blog and you kind of shake your head and silently think “WTF, why in the world would they share THAT so publicly?”

I admit, I have. I don’t need to know when someone is on their period or has diarrhea.  Some sharing that people do is just…well…kind of gross.

What about those things that people share about their kids. You know, where on Facebook they share an entire scenario that happened with their child, including what it was their kid did wrong and how they, the parent dealt with it. I personally think our kids, no matter what their age, deserve a little more privacy and respect than that.

What about things that would be better suited to a personal diary that no one except the writer should ever, ever see? How do you feel about those? I have seen several status updates of people saying things like “It’s Facebook, not a diary!”

I’ve also seen people say that “Facebook isn’t real.” I actually beg to differ on that. While I know parts of it may not be the full picture, I know that most of the people I interact with on Facebook are very much real. But then again I run a support group of over 2000 women. Maybe my Facebooking is different from others.

When I was an active blogger I shared a lot of personal information with the world. I felt it would help not only me, but others, to put my life out there in an honest and open way. And the truth is, that’s just sort of how I roll in general. I’ve always been pretty open with my life, and while I’ve done things in my past that I regret or am ashamed of, I don’t lie about it. I don’t pretend to be this perfect shining example of humanity. I do strive to always be a better version of myself, but sometimes I falter. I’m far from perfect.

Which brings me to this video I made this morning.

This morning – kind of a weird morning. I did my hair and makeup, got dressed, tried to be positive, and even a little silly with a few things I put up on Facebook. But underneath all of that, I’m dealing with some darker stuff. I felt extremely compelled to share it. Not for attention, not for pity or sympathy (and please, don’t pray for me!), but because I thought it would help others if I shared this aspect of myself openly.

Don’t be too quick to judge people, or to envy what they have. The truth is, you never know what internal battles people are struggling with…that is, unless they take a few deep breaths, try to calm their racing heart, and tell you.

If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, please know that you are not alone. There is always something to live for. If you try to step back just a little, and look, there’s usually far more good than bad. It’s easy to let the bad things come into focus, but it’s worth it to fight that, to look for the good things, to seek them out, to share them with others. I personally always feel better when I’m lifting others up.

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Be the Change you Wish to See

Do you ever stop and examine your life? Just, ya know, look at it – look at yourself and wonder what you’re doing? I personally do this all the time. I am an ever evolving creature. I never want to be so set in my beliefs that I’m not open to see things in a new way.

Who am I?

I am many things to many people. I am a mother to a young man who doesn’t need mothering so much anymore, who is about to graduate from college and get married. I am a mama to a young child who still looks at me with wonder. I am a wife to a sincerely good and loving man. I am a daughter. That part gets tricky. I have a father who loves me unconditionally, no matter who I am, or where I am on my path in life. I am a daughter to a woman whose last words to me were “You are dead to me, I never want you to contact me again.” I am a sister to two wonderful, if not sometimes annoying brothers. I am a leader and a follower. I am peaceful, always seeking out the best way to live life, yet I am also quick to defend. I am someone who lives with chronic pain, with a predisposition to depression and sadness, yet I strive to overcome that aspect of myself. I am overly empathic with elements of a Type A personality, though living with pain keeps me from being able to do all the things I wish I could do.

Yep, I am many, many things. Above all, I am a work in progress.

I often feel overwhelmed and sad when I look at the world around me. So much horrific stuff going on, and I am prone to thoughts of “Who am I to change anything? I’m just an average girl.” (at 43 years old, I still think of myself as a ‘girl’ rather than a ‘woman’) to the extreme opposite thought of “One person CAN make a difference.”

I struggle with thoughts of “What is this world coming to, and can it be fixed?”

I stumbled across a video this morning that I watched with a smile on my face and tears in my eyes. It’s about a chain of events, started with ONE random act of kindness. This is not a new thought, and even to me, it’s something I try to do often. Some time ago I even started a short-lived blog under the pseudonym of Heather. It was all about my personal random acts of kindness. While I know this video was a production – not real – I see the reality that exists within it, and I want to be a part of that.

I want to make my life matter. I want to do my part to make not just my own life, but the lives of all I encounter, better. I’m not kidding myself, I don’t expect to be a Nelson Mandela or a Gandhi, but I do know, with all my heart, that we, as a human race have allowed our world to darken, which means we also have the power to do the opposite. We just have to realize that we each have more ability within us than we realize, and we have to claim that power and do good things with it.

Sometimes it’s all too easy to get caught up in the drama of our own lives. Pain, heartache, rejection, fear, adversity… and being human, that’s normal. But we can all be so much more than that. I truly believe that collective, society can change the world…one kind act at a time.

Who are you?

So I challenge myself, and you, to be the change we all so desperately need to see in this world. To no longer hope and wait and dream for ‘someone else’ to fix it, but to take personal responsibility and do our parts. Just think of what we can do, if we all have a common goal of spreading love and kindness. I’d think there wouldn’t be much we couldn’t overcome with a focused mindset and a common goal of spreading hope and light wherever we go.

Please sign this petition

December 9, 2013 Leave a comment

Please sign this petition! As a BRCA1 mutation carrier, I personally know the importance of genetic testing. To have genetic testing available at an affordable price (rather than the $4000 that Myriad charges!) is great! People are smart enough to seek out professional medical recommendations when they get their dna results back from the kits. Give us a little credit, USPSTF!
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It’s time to take a stand. Please help!

December 7, 2013 1 comment

Sue Friedman, Executive Director of Facing Our Risk of Cancer Empowered (FORCE) has written an exceptional letter to the The United States Preventive Services Task Force (USPSTF) taking issue with some of their proposed guidelines for who they think should have access to genetic testing.

An excerpt from the article Sue posted on the FORCE website:

“The USPSTF has recently released a draft of guidelines of genetic counseling and testing for BRCA. As currently written, these guidelines have gaps that will directly affect patient access to genetic counseling, BRCA testing, and preventive services.”

Sue goes on to say:

“As currently written, these guidelines have gaps that will directly affect patient access to genetic counseling, BRCA testing, and preventive services.”

I popped over to USPSTF’s website to gather more information on this and see what I could figure out.

This is some of what I found in the “Risk Assessment, Genetic Counseling, And Genetic Testing for BRCA-Related Cancer: U.S. Preventive Services Task Force Recommendation Statement Draft” (to see the full draft for yourself, click here.)

This is a B recommendationThe USPSTF recommends against routine genetic counseling or routine BRCA testing for women whose family history is not associated with an increased risk for potentially harmful mutations in the BRCA1 or BRCA2 genes.”

In response to the USPSTF’s statement above, Sue Friedman says:

“As currently written, these guidelines have gaps that will directly affect patient access to genetic counseling, BRCA testing, and preventive services.” To see the rest of the article written by Sue on this issue, click here.

Genetic testing saves lives. There is no way to argue that fact. I believe as an adult, I should have the personal choice to pursue genetic testing. Isn’t this America? Land of the brave and home of the free?

We MUST speak up, we must let our voices be heard on this issue. It truly is a matter of life and death!

As I mentioned in the opening statement of this post, Sue has already written an excellent letter to petition this. The letter can be seen in its entirety here.

This affects all of us, and we need your support. We ask that you add your name, city and state to this letter, and to please share on all of your social network platforms (email, facebook, twitter, Linkedin, etc). We need to spread this message quickly and all over the U.S.

Please, don’t delay, send your full name, city and state to Sue Friedman and let her know that you stand behind FORCE.

“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.”

Thank you, very much!

Email your full name, city and state to: suefriedman@facingourrisk.org

Join the Happiness Movement!

November 7, 2013 Leave a comment

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Kindle Readers can Rejoice!

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2013 Goodreads Choice Awards!

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